For Such a Time As This

God's perfect timing....

It might seem strange for you to hear that when Matt and I found out that it is unlikely (i use this word because I know all things are possible) that we will have our own children, that we were comforted. However, that's exactly what it was. I felt so wierd. In a moment I would have expected to be crying my eyes out, I was actually rejoicing.  Here's the back story that may help you understand a little more.

As Matt said previously, we had been trying to get pregnant over the past several years and were unsuccessful.  Within the last year, we had started getting some testing done and trying every "method" including taking temperature, fertility monitors, etc. with no outcome.  The doctor said all of our tests were normal and everything looked good from the outside and that this would probably be something easy to fix as there are so many options for infertility these days.  We had come down to the step where I had to have a procedure done where they check and see if my fallopian tubes are blocked, since all of our other testing was good.  After this procedure, I get a call from the doctor saying that one of my tubes is completely blocked, but with fertility meds, I still have a great chance of getting pregnant.  After a few days, I get another call from the doctor saying that she got the report of the test from the radiologist and he thinks BOTH tubes are completely blocked....this changes things, but things are still hopeful.  My doctor sets me up with a specialist to discuss further treatment options.  I was so nervous and excited for this appointment because I knew we would finally have a plan and an answer.  I had no idea what I was in for that day.  Matt and I are waiting in the lobby of the doctors office and it seems like everyone is getting called back before us.  In the lobby is the cutest little African boy (not african american) who is probably about 2 years old (sounding familiar) playing and laughing and keeping us entertained while we wait.  God has great foreshadowing :).  We finally get called back and the doctor brings us back to his office and starts to tell us about himself.  He is the top guy in his field, he knows his stuff, he has tons of experience, and he is a straight shooter.  So here is the news...............................
"Both of your tubes are completely blocked. I can do surgery to repair them, but this is not very successful and on a scale of 1-10, 10 being the worst damage, yours are an 8 which means they can more than likely not be fixed.  The only realistic option if you want to get pregnant is in vitro. There is only a 60% success rate with this procedure and yours is decreased because of your condition.  This is an extremely expensive and taxing procedure.  If you choose to do in vitro, I will remove both of your fallopian tubes first to increase the chances of in vitro working.  This is a big decision.  Call me when you decide what you want to do."  Now I know you are probably thinking, how is that comforting?  Again it was the weirdest thing.  We went in thinking there were tons of steps before in vitro and then we are practically slapped in the face with it.  All I can say is in that moment, God revealed His perfect timing and all of the puzzle pieces came together that this whole time He was preparing us for such a time as this.  I wasn't sad, I didn't cry (I cry at disney commercials), I was so overwhelmed with joy that God had showed me this perfect picture that he had created and had started so long ago and even into the lobby of the doctor's office!  We had an answer and it was a beautiful answer! Without God's perfect timing, it would again as my husband said been devastating, but it wasn't.  God is so good!

Facts About Life In Uganda

Population Population of 24.6 million (Census, 2002) Uganda has 1.7 million orphans, the highest number in the world Birth rate 47 per 1000 Death rate 20 per 1000 Life expectancy 42 years (UN, 1998) Infant mortality is 100.7 per 1000 live births Fertility rate is 7.1 children per woman Health At least 25% of all households look after at least one child orphaned by either HIV/AIDS or war. The number of children orphaned by AIDS is expected to rise to 3.5 million by 2010, according to the United Nations Children’s Fund (UNICEF). AIDS is now the leading specific cause of death among adults followed by TB and malaria. In children, the main killers are malaria, pneumonia and diarrhea Pregnancy related health problems are serious and Uganda’s maternal mortality rate is over 12 times higher than is normal for developed countries. Education Majority of children enter primary school but only 49% of boys and 29% of girls complete this.  Almost 40% of primary teachers are untrained. Social & Economic The population of Uganda includes several hundred thousand temporary residents, particularly refugees from Rwanda and Sudan.  Insecurity remains widespread in the north where the Lord’s Resistance Army (LRA), led by Joseph Kony,  still continues to operate.  In Kitgum and Gulu districts three quarters of the civilian population are compelled to live in camps, known as protected villages. Only 11% of Ugandans are urban dwellers and of these 40% live in Kampala. Agriculture is the most important sector of the economy. History of Uganda Uganda became independent in 1962.  General Idi Amin came into power in 1971, his incompetence and violence brought society to collapse.  Amin was deposed in 1979 by the Tanzanian army. The Amin era and its aftermath resulted in the neglect of health infrastructure and a loss of resources.  Mr Obote was in power from 1980-1985  Presendent Yoweri Museveni assumed the presidency on January 30,1986.  He was faced with the reconstruction of a country virtually destroyed by a series of regimes which had left almost a million people dead, 2 million refugees, 600 000 injured and incurable property damage. Uganda re-elected President Musevani in 2006.

We Better Get This Started

Well we are finally getting our blog together to keep everyone informed of our adoption journey.  Forgive us as we are new bloggers, so our page is kinda lame right now.

Here is where we are currently.  Our home study should be finished any day now. Now that we have a fire extinguisher in our house, we can adopt.  Oh the funny things about homestudies. I plan to dedicate a  post to the home study process later.  Matt is leaving for Uganda in 9 DAYS! His main goals while he is there are to make connections with as many baby homes, orphanages, etc., as well as meet with our attorney who will be doing the adoption.  Since our home study will be done, hopefully he can get a lot accomplished while he is there.  We are planning to adopt a boy, two or under and possibly a sibling group.  We are so excited to see who God picks to be our child/ren.  I have been going through the "nesting" phase, getting our house cleaned out and the room ready.  That is basically at a standstill now until we know more details.  We are so excited to become parents and time is flying by....as it has been two months since our original post.  Please keep us in your prayers through this process and for us to be sensitive to the Spirit in leading us in all our decision making. More posts and details to come! Thanks for your prayers!

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He must Increase and I must decrease

An answered prayer!!! Julie and I have been trying to get pregnant for over 2 years now. After a long conversation with our fertility doctor, we have discovered that we are not able to have children. What I would have expected to be a huge burden and a devastating blow has turned out to be a warm blanket for our soul! We have felt for quite some time now that we would be adopting but wasn't sure on God's timing. Well God's time is NOW!!!

I would be lying if I said this was what I had planned for years. It's really not at all what I had planned. I wanted the American dream. I wanted the 2.3 kids and the golden retriever and live in a house on some acreage and grow old with my wife. I planned for Julie and I to have our own children one being a son who would be a basketball star and have a sub 2 minute FRAN! A daughter who looked just like my beautiful wife and would also play basketball on the D1 level and would want nothing to do with boys until she was 30. But that was MY plan clearly not God's.

I would confess that many times in my life I pursue "my plans". Sometimes I forget that the Man upstairs who built this whole thing, who created everything by himself and will shut her down when he chooses can probably handle the plans for my life! "He must increase and I must decrease"

So we're adopting!!! Clearly the first thing you do when you are adopting is... Start a blog! I am not a blogger and in fact this very blog will be filled with loads of punctuation errors, misspelled and made up words. Really we are starting this blog primarily for 2 reasons the first being we want to make sure we have record of this journey God has put us on and the second is we want to share this blessing with all of you.

Why international? Why Uganda? Why not DHS? Simply put God has laid Uganda on our hearts. I sure don't think that this is for everybody. I don't think it is some "Heroic" thing to adopt internationally. Frankly there our kids all over the world including here that need parents that will love them! It's just what we feel God has for us.

I do ask for your prayers, that through this process God would give us discernment. We want what He wants not what we want! "He must increase and I must decrease"

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